When I finally see them.
When I finally — after careful observation — see them.
But all I can observe are words and actions.
Is observation enough to really see someone?
I don’t think so. To really see them, I need to look beyond their words and actions.
But only God can see the heart. Their fears, their motivation, their reasons.
And my fears, my motivation, my reasons.
So, I need God to give me the discernment to see someone the way He wants me to see them.
Does it matter if I really see someone?
What if I miss the mark and not really see someone for who they are?
I’m only human. And I know whether I see them correctly or not, I have to choose how I speak and act.
With God’s help, I can do what I know works – it’s what He told me to do.
Love others.
No matter what.
But that doesn’t mean I have to accept abuse or have a relationship with someone who’s behaving inappropriately.
What it does mean, is that regardless of the other ways I can show love and kindness, there’s an action I believe is the most loving thing I can do for them.
What am I supposed to do?
The most loving thing I can do for someone is to pray for them.
Even if I choose not to listen to their words because those words are harmful.
Even if I choose not to be around them because their actions are hurtful.
I must pray for them.
No matter what.
Regardless of what others really see when they look at me, prayers are the most essential words I need to speak — and the most important action I need to take.
What helps you see others and treat them with kindness?
Seeing People – What helps you see others and treat them with kindness? Share on XJoni Vance is an award-winning author of fiction, essay, and poetry. She loves mystery, history, and how God reveals Himself every day.
May God reveal the mystery of His love in your life story.
I think you have the best plan for loving others — to pray for them. Praying for others is not always easy, especially your enemies. I think you have a lot of courage, because you pray for others no matter what.
Thanks for reading. I try to do what God wants – and He says to pray for others, including people who may be against us. I appreciate you sharing.
Love this post. “I must pray for them.”
Thank you for reading and sharing, Tim. I’m glad the post was helpful.
A song from years ago by Amy Grant, “My Father’s Eyes,” speaks of seeing people the way God sees them. Remembering how much He loves them helps me, and I pray He will love others through me. Thank you for your blog, Joni! Blessings!
Thanks for sharing, Kim. Blessings for you as well!